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Confidence helps you make better choices in men
Women who aren’t confident fall for men who aren’t awesome. It’s as simple as that. You don’t see why anyone would enjoy your company or love you for you, and therefore you pick the lowest of the low. You sniff around the bottom of the barrel because that’s where the guys who would accept you for who you are hiding.
Excuse my French – Bullshit! If you’re reading this, you’re valuable. You’re unique, you’re one-of-a-kind and with a helpful push from confidence you could date guys that treat you with respect and love you for who you are.
Will confidence help you get any man you want? No, it won’t, and you’ll still get rejected. That’s fine! Your goal is to find a great man who accepts you for you. Confidence helps the real value in you shine out like a beacon for the rest of the world to see. Not all guys will find certain values important. Maybe you’re an amazingly caring mother and nurturer. While this may make you incredibly valuable to one man, it won’t make you interesting to some start-up tech exec looking for a career-driven CEO who owns her own company and drives a Beemer. That’s okay! You’ll find a guy who loves you for you. It just takes time, and lots of confidence in yourself.
Confidence pushes you to make better life decisions
A confident woman will be a decision maker in her own life. She won’t let a man dictate what she can and cannot do. She finds enjoyment outside of men and that in turn makes her more attractive to men.
You may find confidence in a job, in a hobby, in caring for friends and family or in volunteer work. What is important is for you to identify what it is that gives your life value and then learn more about it and experience it to actually see it as valuable. This helps you feel in control of your own life. You are the one dictating what’s important for you. When you find a man who is worthy of that value, you may consider keeping him around. Until then, guys can come and go, since you generate your value elsewhere.
Confidence keeps relationships going longer
Women feel the need to care for their men, and in doing so they tend to give up things they shouldn’t. This might be friends, a favorite hobby and even a promotion at work. This may seem wise at the time, but it only undermines the thing that attracts him to you the most: your value.
Once you’re only there to support him, the value erodes and so does your confidence. You become unsure of yourself because every time he disapproves, you worry. You fear losing him more than ever, which in turn makes him even more repulsed by you. This happens to thousands and thousands of relationships. If you want to find a committed life partner, you cannot lose your value. Once self-value disappears, so does confidence and the relationship will follow.
By all means, compromise with him, but don’t give in to him. If you’re hanging out with your friends and he calls, don’t run to him. He’ll respect that and love you more because of it. As you’ll see in the coming chapters, this kind of action attracts men like nothing else!
